Ring-Around-The-Rosey #2

Hi!

Follow up #2 to continue on with our topic. So now, from a male’s perspective. I haven’t had the chance to ask the husband about his thoughts since my hormones seemed to transfer to him whilst he’s sick, so he’s been moody and quiet. So, I’ll try to assume what’s in his brain about this one.

Male Perspective – Why is it important?

• Ego: again, I think this comes back down to the culture of where you’re at. Just as I mentioned how it’s ‘image’ for ladies, something similar happens for the men as well. They don’t want to be deemed ‘unworthy’ or ‘not able’ when they don’t give this particular jewellery. In addition to that, in some cultures or environment the size of the rock equals… enter thought here.
• Down Payment: this sounds like they’re buying their partners, but I’ll try to explain. I think in a certain period of time (read: hundreds of years ago), men gives the parents of their partner things like cows, sheep, horses etc. to let them know how much their daughters are worth and as a form of ‘down payment’ prior to the marriage. A similar thought may still linger nowadays, but of course now it’s in the form of jewellery and other costly goods instead of farm animals…
• Making their girl happy: making us ladies happy isn’t hard. Really, I mean you just have to give us all your time, affection, attention, on top of taking us out on cool dates, give us a ring to bind us and propose at the right time. LOL. Anywho, in regards to this particular topic though, if they love their partner enough to notice the ‘signs’ or to realise when the time is right and what she’s expecting, men will be more than happy to provide all of these as they would think they’re worth it.

Now, this is just my two cents. I probably could elaborate further or more into detail, but I’m afraid that it’ll be boring, too long and frankly Alex is sucking out all of the brain power I have right now. Maybe after birth, brain and capability will increase to normal percentages. 🙂

Ring-Around-the-Rosey #1

Fun Fact: Once you hit 3rd trimester, all your fingers look like thumbs and you can no longer wear jewellery without fear of it suffocating your finger.

The husband was asked by a colleague about rings the other day. I’m not speculating, but they might be thinking of proposing or at least going in that direction (duh). I’d like to give my two cents in about this, and see it from both male and female views about this sudden ‘tradition’ (I’d like to view it as a trend really) that’s currently up and happening right now.

Female Perspective – Why is it important?

• Image: OK ladies, I might have to bring you down on this one. This may actually be one of the reasons why you’re expecting your man to go down on one knee. ‘Ooo she got a rock! / OMG look at her she got proposed to!’ and so on and so forth. Social media doesn’t help, as they blast this ‘trend’ out and target us ladies, creating expectations.
• Expectation: Commencing from the previous point, due to what we see and possibly the people around us, there is a certain ‘standard’ or ‘expectation’ we want to have about this. In addition, in certain cultures it’s actually to fulfil expectation not from you ladies, but it even goes back to your parents (to show that he can), extended family members (to make those ‘aunties’ be quiet) and so on. You know which ethnicity I’m talking about right? 😐
• A Gesture of Love: I feel like this is the right-est reason you should feel that a proposal is important. Based on the fact that after the months/years you’ve been together, this is a small form of gesture from your significant other that they are serious about your relationship and want to take it to the next level.

I’ll follow through with #2 once my head isn’t so lightheaded – been sick for 12 days isn’t fun. Again, this is just my two cents so if you don’t agree or feel offended… Move along now…